New York Times: i papà italiani rovinati da separazioni e divorzi
Crisi economica e (in)giustizia stanno devastando i papà italiani.
È il New York a lanciare l’allarme su questa moderna forma di schiavitù: papà italiani espropriati dei propri affetti, dei propri averi, della propria casa da sentenze “femministe”. Mentre la stampa di sinistra italiana indulge nella propaganda anti-uomo per far avere più fondi ai centri anti-violenza “caduti” nel femminismo anti paterno, (come se la paternità funzionasse come una forma di impoverimento alla maternità per i bambini !).
«MILANO — La crisi economica viene sentita gravemente da una nuova
classe di persone: papà separati che finiscono in povertà sulle strade
mentre cercano disperatamente di pagare mantenimenti.
In Italia, dove il fenomeno è forse più acuto, il fenomeno riflette
una combinazione di crisi economica che incontra la lenta dissoluzione
del sistema sociale e l’implosione della famiglia italiana.
una combinazione di crisi economica che incontra la lenta dissoluzione
del sistema sociale e l’implosione della famiglia italiana.
Un volontario della Croce Rossa, Gianni Villa, porta cibo, vestiti e
coperte una volta alla settimana alle legioni di senza casa di Milano
“prima erano barboni, drogati, persone allo sbando… Oggi trovo persone
qui per la crisi economica o per via dei loro problemi personali. Non
vogliono dire di essere papà separati, perché non vogliono che la loro
famiglia lo sappia”.
coperte una volta alla settimana alle legioni di senza casa di Milano
“prima erano barboni, drogati, persone allo sbando… Oggi trovo persone
qui per la crisi economica o per via dei loro problemi personali. Non
vogliono dire di essere papà separati, perché non vogliono che la loro
famiglia lo sappia”.
Franco, 56 anni, papà separato, ha lasciato la sua Puglia in cerca di
lavoro, dovendo mantenere la moglie di 34 anni “in Puglia vivevo giorno
per giorno… sto ancora mantenendo le figlie di 20 anni ma senza lavoro.
Ho avuto fortuna a trovare un uomo che mi ha dato una coperta e mi ha
insegnato come vivere per la strada”.
lavoro, dovendo mantenere la moglie di 34 anni “in Puglia vivevo giorno
per giorno… sto ancora mantenendo le figlie di 20 anni ma senza lavoro.
Ho avuto fortuna a trovare un uomo che mi ha dato una coperta e mi ha
insegnato come vivere per la strada”.
Le separazioni ed i divorzi sono cresciuti: 297 e 181 per 1000 matrimoni secondo l’ISTAT.
Nonostante che una legge del 2006 abbia sancito l’affido condiviso, i
giudici italiani continuano ad affidare i figli alle madri, mentre i
papà vengono caricati del peso economico della separazione.
giudici italiani continuano ad affidare i figli alle madri, mentre i
papà vengono caricati del peso economico della separazione.
Quando Umberto Vaghi divorziò, gli venne ordinato di pagare 2000€ al
mese di mantenimenti, quando il suo stipendio era di 2200€ mensili:
“sono stato attaccato dai tribunali italiani”.
mese di mantenimenti, quando il suo stipendio era di 2200€ mensili:
“sono stato attaccato dai tribunali italiani”.
In Italia, le opere di carità vedono che sempre più persone fra chi
chiede un piatto di minestra ed un letto sono papà separati “Una triste
realtà ma ben comprensibile, considerato che l’80% dei papà separati non
possono vivere con quello che rimane del loro stipendio” dice la
ricercatrice Saso.
chiede un piatto di minestra ed un letto sono papà separati “Una triste
realtà ma ben comprensibile, considerato che l’80% dei papà separati non
possono vivere con quello che rimane del loro stipendio” dice la
ricercatrice Saso.
Padre Moriggi, che gestisce un’opera di accoglienza dice “Questi
uomini avevano un salario medio, ma gli rimangono solo lacrime da
piangere una volta pagati i mantenimenti.
Vengono da noi, ma si
vergognano di vedere i loro bambini in queste strutture, e soffrono”. Nelle grandi città come Milano, Roma e Torino gli amministratori
stanno diventando consapevoli della crisi. Due anni fa la Provincia di
Milano ha inaugurato una casa per papà separati. Il giardino accoglie
le visite dei loro bambini. Ogni mese ciascun ospite paga 200€.
uomini avevano un salario medio, ma gli rimangono solo lacrime da
piangere una volta pagati i mantenimenti.
Vengono da noi, ma si
vergognano di vedere i loro bambini in queste strutture, e soffrono”. Nelle grandi città come Milano, Roma e Torino gli amministratori
stanno diventando consapevoli della crisi. Due anni fa la Provincia di
Milano ha inaugurato una casa per papà separati. Il giardino accoglie
le visite dei loro bambini. Ogni mese ciascun ospite paga 200€.
Fabio, 51 anni, ha vissuto qui da Gennaio, quando si è separato dalla
moglie. Lo stipendio di Fabio, 1200€, basta appena a pagare il
mantenimento, e quindi l’accoglienza è stata un sollievo.
moglie. Lo stipendio di Fabio, 1200€, basta appena a pagare il
mantenimento, e quindi l’accoglienza è stata un sollievo.
Nonostante i tempi duri, rimane ottimista “Spero di trovare una casa da solo perché non posso rimanere qui per sempre”.»
2 VIDEO AL LINK: http://www.centriantiviolenza.com/the_truth_archives/new-york-times/
articolo originale:
In Europe, Divorce and Separation Become a Burden for Struggling Fathers
MILAN— The pain of Europe’s economic crisis is being felt sharply by a
new class of people: separated and divorced men who end up impoverished
or on the streets as they struggle to maintain themselves while keeping
up child support and alimony payments.
new class of people: separated and divorced men who end up impoverished
or on the streets as they struggle to maintain themselves while keeping
up child support and alimony payments.
The number of fathers who find themselves in such difficulties is
hard to pin down, and while it may not be extremely large, it is
growing, according to researchers, government statistics and anecdotal
accounts from social workers, particularly in Europe’s hard-hit southern
tier.
In Italy,
where the phenomenon is perhaps most acute, it reflects a fearsome
combination of forces as the four-year-old economic crisis meets the
steady fraying of the social safety net and the slow-motion implosion of
the Italian family.
For some separated fathers, the burdens become unbearable as they
find themselves jobless or unable to make ends meet as their children,
facing grim economic prospects themselves, remain dependent on family
support into adulthood.
“The support that Italian families used to provide,” which
essentially substituted for a welfare state, “is no longer something
that can be taken for granted,” said Alberto Bruno, provincial
commissioner of the Italian Red Cross in Milan. His volunteers, he said,
have come across men living in cars, even in Milan’s Linate Airport,
“mixing with passengers, dressed in their suits.”
One volunteer, Gianni Villa, 25, who takes food, clothing and
blankets once a week to Milan’s growing legions of homeless, said he was
surprised at the change he had seen. “Before, men who lived on the
streets were vagrants, people adrift or drug addicts,” he said.
“Nowadays you find people there because of the economic crisis or
because of personal problems.”
“They don’t tell you they are fathers,” he said, “because they don’t want their family to know.”
Franco, 56, who did not want to use his full name so as to avoid the
shame of his wife and two daughters learning of his troubles, left his
native Puglia in April after his business went bankrupt. He said he
traveled to Milan to look for work, in part to keep up alimony payments
to his wife of 34 years, whom he is divorcing. The couple separated
about a year and half ago, he said.
“In Puglia I was living day to day, but I couldn’t keep that up
forever,” he said, adding that he was still supporting his daughters,
both of whom are in their early 20s but unemployed.
With no place to stay in Milan as of April, Franco said he was “very
fortunate” to meet a man at a McDonald’s who gave him a blanket and
showed him “the ropes of living on the street.” It was not long before
he was sleeping on a box under the portico facing Milan’s stock
exchange.
Separations and divorces have steadily risen in this traditionally
Roman Catholic country since divorce was legalized in 1970. In 1995, 158
of every 1,000 marriages ended in separation, and 80 out of 1,000 in
divorce. In 2009, the last year for which statistics are available, the
numbers had reached 297 separations and 181 divorces per thousand,
according to Istat, the national statistics agency.
Even though a 2006 law made joint custody of children the norm when
parents split, Italian courts continue to make mothers the primary
caregivers while fathers bear the financial brunt of the separation.
Critics say the law, as it is applied, favors women, whose participation
in the work force has steadily grown, reaching 46.5 percent, according
to Istat. Still, more than half of women who are separated also see a
decline in their economic conditions, Istat said.
When Umberto Vaghi, a sales manager in Milan who was divorced last
year, split from his wife in 2004, for example, he was ordered to pay
her 2,000 euros, or about $2,440, each month for upkeep on their home
and support for their children, then 10 and 8. Each month, Mr. Vaghi was
earning 2,200 euros, or about $2,680.
“I was attacked by the Italian justice system,” said Mr. Vaghi, 43, a board member of the Papa Separati Lombardia movement, a nonprofit that assists single fathers and lobbies to improve Italian family law legislation.
“Society is changing, and with it the roles of the father as the
breadwinner and the mother as homemaker,” he said. “Legislation should
take that into consideration.”
hard to pin down, and while it may not be extremely large, it is
growing, according to researchers, government statistics and anecdotal
accounts from social workers, particularly in Europe’s hard-hit southern
tier.
In Italy,
where the phenomenon is perhaps most acute, it reflects a fearsome
combination of forces as the four-year-old economic crisis meets the
steady fraying of the social safety net and the slow-motion implosion of
the Italian family.
For some separated fathers, the burdens become unbearable as they
find themselves jobless or unable to make ends meet as their children,
facing grim economic prospects themselves, remain dependent on family
support into adulthood.
“The support that Italian families used to provide,” which
essentially substituted for a welfare state, “is no longer something
that can be taken for granted,” said Alberto Bruno, provincial
commissioner of the Italian Red Cross in Milan. His volunteers, he said,
have come across men living in cars, even in Milan’s Linate Airport,
“mixing with passengers, dressed in their suits.”
One volunteer, Gianni Villa, 25, who takes food, clothing and
blankets once a week to Milan’s growing legions of homeless, said he was
surprised at the change he had seen. “Before, men who lived on the
streets were vagrants, people adrift or drug addicts,” he said.
“Nowadays you find people there because of the economic crisis or
because of personal problems.”
“They don’t tell you they are fathers,” he said, “because they don’t want their family to know.”
Franco, 56, who did not want to use his full name so as to avoid the
shame of his wife and two daughters learning of his troubles, left his
native Puglia in April after his business went bankrupt. He said he
traveled to Milan to look for work, in part to keep up alimony payments
to his wife of 34 years, whom he is divorcing. The couple separated
about a year and half ago, he said.
“In Puglia I was living day to day, but I couldn’t keep that up
forever,” he said, adding that he was still supporting his daughters,
both of whom are in their early 20s but unemployed.
With no place to stay in Milan as of April, Franco said he was “very
fortunate” to meet a man at a McDonald’s who gave him a blanket and
showed him “the ropes of living on the street.” It was not long before
he was sleeping on a box under the portico facing Milan’s stock
exchange.
Separations and divorces have steadily risen in this traditionally
Roman Catholic country since divorce was legalized in 1970. In 1995, 158
of every 1,000 marriages ended in separation, and 80 out of 1,000 in
divorce. In 2009, the last year for which statistics are available, the
numbers had reached 297 separations and 181 divorces per thousand,
according to Istat, the national statistics agency.
Even though a 2006 law made joint custody of children the norm when
parents split, Italian courts continue to make mothers the primary
caregivers while fathers bear the financial brunt of the separation.
Critics say the law, as it is applied, favors women, whose participation
in the work force has steadily grown, reaching 46.5 percent, according
to Istat. Still, more than half of women who are separated also see a
decline in their economic conditions, Istat said.
When Umberto Vaghi, a sales manager in Milan who was divorced last
year, split from his wife in 2004, for example, he was ordered to pay
her 2,000 euros, or about $2,440, each month for upkeep on their home
and support for their children, then 10 and 8. Each month, Mr. Vaghi was
earning 2,200 euros, or about $2,680.
“I was attacked by the Italian justice system,” said Mr. Vaghi, 43, a board member of the Papa Separati Lombardia movement, a nonprofit that assists single fathers and lobbies to improve Italian family law legislation.
“Society is changing, and with it the roles of the father as the
breadwinner and the mother as homemaker,” he said. “Legislation should
take that into consideration.”
Unfortunately, “there isn’t much will to change things,” he added. He
and others attribute the resistance in part to the still-powerful
influence of the Catholic Church in Italy, as well as the fact that
Parliament is filled with lawyers who have little interest in reducing
litigation.
In Spain, court filings against fathers who have not paid child
support have risen sharply since the start of the economic crisis.
Recent news reports in places like Navarra and Galicia describe fathers
who have been jailed for failing to support their children. In April
last year, a Barcelona judge denied parental custody to a divorced
father, citing the fact that he had lost his job.
and others attribute the resistance in part to the still-powerful
influence of the Catholic Church in Italy, as well as the fact that
Parliament is filled with lawyers who have little interest in reducing
litigation.
In Spain, court filings against fathers who have not paid child
support have risen sharply since the start of the economic crisis.
Recent news reports in places like Navarra and Galicia describe fathers
who have been jailed for failing to support their children. In April
last year, a Barcelona judge denied parental custody to a divorced
father, citing the fact that he had lost his job.
Poverty among single parents is “a rising phenomenon,” said Raffaella
Saso, who wrote on the “new poor” — separated fathers and single-parent
families — for the annual report of Eurispes, the Rome-based research
institute.
Homelessness, too, is growing. In Greece, Klimaka,
a charity group, estimates that the number of homeless has increased by
25 percent in the past two years. The trend is a concern in a country
where traditionally strong family ties have usually averted such
phenomena. A third of those who had registered as homeless were divorced
or separated, and mostly men, according to a study published in
February by the National Center for Social Research.
In Italy, charities say that a growing number of those using soup
kitchens and dormitories of churches and other agencies are separated
parents. “An uncomfortable reality but easy to believe, considering that
80 percent of separated fathers cannot live on what remains of their
salary,” Ms. Saso, the researcher, wrote.
The Rev. Clemente Moriggi, who oversees the Brothers of St. Francis
of Assisi, a Milanese Catholic charity, said that in the past year
separated fathers, ages 28 to 60, occupied 80 of the 700 beds in the
foundation’s dormitories, which do not house children. That is more than
twice the number of just a few years ago.
“These men earned average salaries that only left them tears to cry
once they paid their alimony and mortgages,” Father Moriggi said. “They
are the people who come to us. But this is not a situation where family
life can prosper. They feel ashamed to see their children in these
structures, and this makes them suffer. And makes relationships suffer.”
In large cities like Milan, Rome and Turin, local administrators are
becoming increasingly aware of the crisis. Two years ago, lawmakers with
the Milan Provincial government inaugurated a housing project for
separated fathers at the Oblate Missionary College in Rho, just outside
of Milan.
The men occupy 15 rooms in a recently refurbished 16th-century
guesthouse that also caters to tourists and pilgrims. The lodgings are
spare, but the exquisite setting, in a park, is welcoming for children
to visit.
Each month, guests pay 200 euros, or about $250, a month for lodging
and assistance from psychologists and social workers, and the province
pays twice that as a subsidy.
Fabio, 51, has lived in the Rho facility since January last year,
when he separated from his wife, who lives near Milan with their
13-year-old son. Fabio’s monthly salary of 1,200 euros, or about $1,500,
earned as a bookbinder, did not go far once alimony and mortgage
payments were made, so the housing has been a relief.
Despite his hard times, he remains optimistic. “I hope to find a home for myself because I can’t stay here forever,” he said.
Saso, who wrote on the “new poor” — separated fathers and single-parent
families — for the annual report of Eurispes, the Rome-based research
institute.
Homelessness, too, is growing. In Greece, Klimaka,
a charity group, estimates that the number of homeless has increased by
25 percent in the past two years. The trend is a concern in a country
where traditionally strong family ties have usually averted such
phenomena. A third of those who had registered as homeless were divorced
or separated, and mostly men, according to a study published in
February by the National Center for Social Research.
In Italy, charities say that a growing number of those using soup
kitchens and dormitories of churches and other agencies are separated
parents. “An uncomfortable reality but easy to believe, considering that
80 percent of separated fathers cannot live on what remains of their
salary,” Ms. Saso, the researcher, wrote.
The Rev. Clemente Moriggi, who oversees the Brothers of St. Francis
of Assisi, a Milanese Catholic charity, said that in the past year
separated fathers, ages 28 to 60, occupied 80 of the 700 beds in the
foundation’s dormitories, which do not house children. That is more than
twice the number of just a few years ago.
“These men earned average salaries that only left them tears to cry
once they paid their alimony and mortgages,” Father Moriggi said. “They
are the people who come to us. But this is not a situation where family
life can prosper. They feel ashamed to see their children in these
structures, and this makes them suffer. And makes relationships suffer.”
In large cities like Milan, Rome and Turin, local administrators are
becoming increasingly aware of the crisis. Two years ago, lawmakers with
the Milan Provincial government inaugurated a housing project for
separated fathers at the Oblate Missionary College in Rho, just outside
of Milan.
The men occupy 15 rooms in a recently refurbished 16th-century
guesthouse that also caters to tourists and pilgrims. The lodgings are
spare, but the exquisite setting, in a park, is welcoming for children
to visit.
Each month, guests pay 200 euros, or about $250, a month for lodging
and assistance from psychologists and social workers, and the province
pays twice that as a subsidy.
Fabio, 51, has lived in the Rho facility since January last year,
when he separated from his wife, who lives near Milan with their
13-year-old son. Fabio’s monthly salary of 1,200 euros, or about $1,500,
earned as a bookbinder, did not go far once alimony and mortgage
payments were made, so the housing has been a relief.
Despite his hard times, he remains optimistic. “I hope to find a home for myself because I can’t stay here forever,” he said.
Vorrei sapere chi è l autore che riporta notizie senza fondamento e senza check.
E sopratutto inventa storie come quella di Franco di 56 anni saparato dalla moglie di 34 con cui ha figli gia ventenni. Un pedofilo che va con una bimba di 14 anni??
Chi è l autore?? Certa roba fa vergognare sino padri degni.
Tullio